DP83867IS: phy not detected DP83867IS

hello. we bought the DP83867ISRGZ to use as an ethernet phy. the serial communication with it is working properly (we followed each write with a read to verify) and it is reiceving the 25Mhz clock succseuflly(checked the clock output pin to verify) the problem is that when we connect an ethernet cable from it to a computer neither detects the other, the computer doesnt detect anything is connected and the phy does not respond (clk_ctrl). we connected the following ether pin 1 and 2 are connected to a transformer(H1102NL) and from there to pins 1 and 2 of DP83867ISRGZ. ether pin 3 and 6 are connected to a transformer(H1102NL) and from there to pins 4 and 5 of DP83867ISRGZ. is this the correct connection? the datasheet isnt clear if any ethernet pair can be used as either rx to tx on the DP83867ISRGZ. additionally is there any faulty strapping that might cause the ethertnet to fail? we allready had to fix the gpio0 strapping for the serial interface to work, we also allready made sure to clear bit[7] of address 0x0031 as the rx_ctrl was strapped to an invalid voltage.